I’ve been in situations where I had the earthly right not to forgive someone. I had every right to stay angry with someone. I had every right to treat someone like they treated me.
I had every right.
How do you forgive though?
This is a question that I asked myself plenty of times in the past. I always thought to myself, this person doesn’t deserve my forgiveness, how do I stop being angry or resentful? Why do I have to forgive this person? They don’t deserve that.
But in being angry, resentful or harboring negative feelings towards someone, I was poisoning myself in the process. You see when we keep a tight anger grip over a person that wronged us, it’s toxic. Toxic to your mind, your body, and your spirit. Our judgment gets cloudy, we start to feel stressed out and our spirit is broken. You sit there and go over and over in your mind about how angry you are. And with harboring all of these feelings, forgiveness can be a difficult pill to swallow.
Feelings are valid. But they are fleeting. Feelings shouldn’t have a control panel on your way of being or how you live your life.
Forgiveness is soul searching; being able to analyze the spirit that lies within you. Being able to find a way to release every ounce of anger you have. You can’t forgive someone until you forgive yourself for holding onto all that negativity that actually took over your spirit for so long. Your spirit needs to be cleansed in order to forgive. You need to stop being angry with yourself also.
Forgiveness is a process. Forgiveness is a lesson. Forgiveness is freeing.
Forgiveness is not for them.
It’s for you.